oops, sorry, got carried away there.
the best bet, then, is to locate your apache executable, which is probably in
c:\program files\ he apache group\apache\bin\apache.exe
and from command prompt, once you're in that folder, type
and that should stop it.
But, the point still stands, i wouldn't worry about shutting down, etc - apache will clean up after itself pretty well.
i hope that's more help.